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What I Learned at My First Women’s Retreat

The odd, nomadic lifestyle that I live (and love) is not especially conducive to making intimate, long-term connections. Something that I miss, and am sorely out of practice in pursuing.

But I wasn’t sure that a women’s retreat was right for me.

The lessons that I learned were completely unexpected… CONTINUE READING >>

Thanks to Women at Woodstock for inviting me along and providing this nurturing experience! As always, all opinions are my own.

Women At Woodstock

I have to admit to my reservations before agreeing to attend Women at Woodstock.

When was first invited, I literally thought UGH. Is a women’s retreat for me?

It didn’t sound like my thing – at all.

Then, I dug a little deeper and became intrigued. I’m always looking to beef up my writing skills, so the writing workshops were really exciting to me, and the business stuff looked invaluable.

But, oddly enough (and I hate to admit this) it was the estrogen-infused events that prodded me to accept the invite.

Obviously, I needed some girl time, STAT.

So we pointed BAMF toward New York, took in some fall festivals and enjoyed the riotous autumn colors before David dropped me at Emerson Resort and Spa where the retreat was held.

All for ME? My glorious writing den for three nights!
All for ME? My fabulous room at Emerson Spa & Resort

I was to meet my fellow retreat-ers that night at a pre-dinner wine hour. A combination of not wanting to leave my blissful room, a pre-game bout of painful social awkwardness, and a hyperawareness that I would want to write about my experience (which, in retrospect, put me in a weird outsider/a-little-too-judge-y headspace), made me not exactly the best dinner company.

The odd, nomadic lifestyle that I live (and love) is not especially conducive to making intimate, long-term connections. Something that I miss, and am sorely out of practice in pursuing.

After dinner, I made a beeline to the workout room to blow off some steam and shake off some of my social awkwardness. While on the treadmill I sent a litany of self-indulgent “Camp Granada“-type texts to David. Hello muddah, hello faddah…

Much like the parents at the receiving end of “Camp Granada,” David encouraged me to stick it out, stop acting like a baby, and to take off my reporter’s cap so I could let myself go and experience the goings-on as I was supposed to.

So I did. I went back to my room, lit a fire and laid out my big girl panties for the next day.

Anoek van Praag speaking at Women At Woodstock

Heeding David’s advice to go all in, I started the morning with an I-would-never-normally-attend-this-kind-of-thing workshop entitled “From Trauma to Love, Past to Present” led by Anoek van Praag, a woman who defies a pigeon-holing description from a mere mortal like me.

Anoek speaks of love, life, sex, fear conquering — and the passion (and science) of it all — with such frankness, that I soon found myself blurting out a (very) personal childhood experience to a group of women I barely knew. I was horrified, where did that come from?

Victoria Zackheim at Women At Woodstock

My afternoons were spent with Victoria Zackheim in her writing intensives. The joy of writing oozes from Victoria’s pores, and she whipped up storylines faster than my brain could process them.

My mind was stretched beyond repair (in a good way!) and, on those days in the future when I find writing a drudgery, I have a new muse to call up. (How’d I do Victoria? An entire paragraph without one single overflowery, trumped up, underwhelming, unnecessary adjective! Right?)

Ivy Slater speaks at Women At Woodstock

My next horrifying blurt was emitted during Ivy Slater’s class on “Conquering Your Fear of Money.”

Her ah-ha approach to helping us explore our relationships (and hang-ups) with the almighty dollar was brilliant, teetering on the edge of psychotherapy. Well, if psychotherapy was fun.

My blurt came out something like this: YOU MEAN I’M NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO FEELS LIKE I DON’T DESERVE SUCCESS?!?! To which the entire room basically said: WHAT?!?! NOOOOOO!

Oh, wait (finally, the epiphany): Blurting = Bonding! I’d become so rusty, I hadn’t realized what was happening. I was beginning to trust the bond that was developing between me and this group of fascinating women. Progress.

Dinner at Emerson Resort and Spa
Here’s the main course!

I found myself being a much better dinner guest that night.

Fed — both body and soul — I found myself in my room by the fire again. This time, writing my butt off.

On day two, I was feeling my oats.

I found myself volunteering to speak (and receive honest feedback) in Susanna Baddiel‘s “Personal Impact Training”…

Susanna Baddiel at Women at Woodstock

hobnobbed with the uber-talented photographer Lisa Levart…

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See more of Lisa’s incredible art

and the inspiring, wide-open and kind Amy Ferris, author of Marrying George Clooney: Confessions from a Midlife Crisis. Amy walks into a room, and the entire place lights up with warmth, humor, and a freak-of-nature-ish sort of groovy energy.

Ann Voorhees Baker

I corralled Ann Voorhees Baker, founder of Women At Woodstock, to get her vision of these gatherings. Her answer?

“To contribute to the coalescence of the community of women over fifty, to create an environment where women help each other achieve goals they have had, but may never have pursued.”

Here is just a brief taste of the amazing connections I saw going around me:

— When Kathleen Welby-Moretti found out that she was being honored, along with singer Natalie Merchant, for her work on the short film, Shelter, she needed to craft a speech on the fly… during the retreat. Victoria Zackheim quickly jumped in to assist her. (Click this link to see Shelter, it’s free and it’s amazing).

— When the ladies who took Ann Fry’s “Business Incubator” workshop stood up at dinner to pitch their start-up ideas Shark Tank-style (toothless sharks), the outpouring of ideas, contacts and suggestions from the audience was inspiring to watch.

— When it was announced that Glad Rag Bags, a start-up that was bandied around in a prior toothless WAW Shark Tank, was now a thriving business, it was taken as a group success. (Glad Rag Bags is a limited line of designer handbags created from reclaimed items. The company practices fair trade and donates proceeds to good causes)

— When the writers among us got together, we learned of each other’s new projects. My excited-to-read list has grown to include Amy Ferris’s Dancing at the Shame Prom, and Victoria Zackheim’s Faith, and Dr. Susan R Meyer‘s Fifty Over Fifty: Wise and Wild Women Creating Wonderful Lives

Veronica reads aloud from Going Gypsy at Women at Woodstock

On the final night, a group of us sat down to listen to each other’s written work.

I decided to throw my name in the hat – the first time I would read aloud from Going Gypsy.

It was the first time I’d opened my mouth in front of a group of people without nerves – actually I looked forward to it – no, I was excited. I knew I had a soft place to land if I screwed it up.

That’s the greatest gift my new tribe has given me – and it’s huge.

My hope is that I’ve given back a fraction of this gift.

Veronica, GypsyNester.com

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Thanks to Women at Woodstock for inviting me along and providing this nurturing experience! As always, all opinions are my own.

YOUR TURN:  Have you ever been to a retreat? Did you have a similar experience? Is Women at Woodstock a type of retreat you’d consider?

How to (and how NOT to) Deal with the Altitude in Peru

I’m a sea-level gal. I don’t do well with high altitude.

At about 5,000 feet above sea level I get sleepy, at 6,000 loopy and at 7,000 I’m out cold – like I’m in a coma.

So when I found out that our trip to Peru would mean being above 11,000 feet, I panicked. We were going to some real bucket list-worthy… CONTINUE READING >>

Coca leaves
Coca leaves sit in a basket for the guests of our hotel.

I’m a sea-level gal. I don’t do well with high altitude.

At about 5,000 feet above sea level I get sleepy, at 6,000 loopy and at 7,000 I’m out cold – like I’m in a coma.

So when I found out that our trip to Peru would mean being above 11,000 feet, I panicked. We were going to some real bucket list-worthy places and I didn’t want to miss a thing.

NOTE: I am not a doctor, nor am I giving any advice here. I am simply providing info and letting you know what worked for me. Ask your doctor before trying anything new.

The Peruvian locals swear by the leaves of the coca plant, the plant that produces cocaine, as an antidote to the thin air. They have been chewing the leaves for centuries.

Coca Tea in Peru at Posada del Inca in Yucay
The most common way to serve coca is in a tea. It’s served everywhere.

We had heard about this remedy prior to our trip and were hesitant about trying it. We had read that, when brewed in tea, it has the same amount of boost as a cup of coffee, but I was worried that I would end up addicted, or at the very least, babbling on and on like a self-important idiot.

I’ve seen Charlie Sheen on talk shows and I don’t need any help in the babbling department. I’m a champ at it without any chemical help.

Coca tea was offered to us at a weaving coop in Peru
In the Sacred Valley of the Incas, we were served coca tea during our visit to a weaving cooperative. That’s David in the background to the left, sipping away.

As soon as we arrived in Cusco, I started feeling dizzy and felt my brain was seriously muted. I fell asleep as soon as I sat down on the bus. BAM. Gone.

I slept though the entire ride to our hotel. I decided to override my reservations and took a chance, I tried a little tea.

My head immediately started clearing and instantly no longer felt that sleep was eminent.

Coca candy in Peru
Coca candy is another way to get your coca fix. We’re convinced it and the tea helped.

Pleased with the results, we started making iced tea for to take along for sightseeing, and we’d even taken to chewing the leaves, just like a local! The raw leaves were not tasty, and we learned to soak them first – otherwise the texture was awful.

Other than the head-clearing and staying-awake properties, I felt no weird side effects. Once we caught a plane to Argentina, I didn’t think of coca again. I had no withdrawal symptoms.

General DOs and DON’Ts for high altitude management:

Inca Kola
Inca Kola, popular yellow, sweet soda.

DO
-Stay hydrated. Drink your water. Limit your coffee and Inca Kola intake. Caffeine dehydrates and can make acclimation more difficult.

DO
-Take big, deep, full breaths. Deep breathing increases oxygen in the blood.

Pensive llama at Machu Picchu
A pensive llama at Machu Picchu.

DON’T
-Go crazy with hiking and other strenuous activities
. Wait 24 hours and see how you feel. Machu Picchu will still be there.

DON’T
-Drink a lot of alcohol. Booze dehydrates. The air is dry. All that extra breathing dries you out. Why pile on?

MORE OPTIONS:

-Suck on some oxygen. Many hotels offer it to guests upon request. If you want to bring your own oxygen system, be sure to check with your airline before bringing it along.

-Some hotels offer rooms where oxygen is pumped in. These are especially helpful for folks who don’t sleep well in high altitudes.

-There are both prescription and over-the-counter remedies, so if you feel the need for drugs, talk to your doctor.

a booth with something called Oxyshot. But wait, the clerk is out cold, must be the thin air.

-At the airport in Cusco we were introduced to another treatment to counteract the high altitude. Since the salesperson at the OxiShot booth was out cold, we opted to pass this option by.

Veronica, GypsyNester.com

YOUR TURN: Did we cover everything? Do you know of anything we missed? Were we helpful? Do you have further questions? Fire away!

Clinging to the Cliffs of the Amalfi Coast of Italy

Italy has a long relationship with the sea, and nowhere is that connection more beautifully on display than the stretch of shoreline along the Sorrentine Peninsula’s Amalfi Coast.

This is the Italy of the international jet set, and after our impressive arrival we almost felt like a part of it…. CONTINUE READING >>

Sailing into Naples, Italy aboard the Royal Princess GypsyNester.com

Sailing into the harbor aboard a ship may just be the very best way to see Naples.

Italy has a long relationship with the sea, and nowhere is that connection more beautifully on display than the stretch of shoreline along the Sorrentine Peninsula’s Amalfi Coast.

View of the Amalfi Coast in Italy

This is the Italy of the international jet set, and after our impressive arrival we almost felt like a part of it.

But rather than joining them, we watched their mega-yachts circling the Isle of Capri as we made our way on wheels along the cliffs overlooking the bay of Naples.

Driving along the Amalifi Coast near Naples, Italy

Positano, Italy

Before long we turned inland to cross over to the south side of the peninsula, and began our explorations in the seaside village of Positano.

The way Positano clings to the coast is unbelievable. It’s hard to imagine a more unlikely spot for a town, but it makes for sensational views, and some unbelievable road work.

Positano, Italy

We had to abandon our ride — long before reaching the center of town — so we would be walking, but hey, it’s all downhill from here.

Shops featuring the fine linen that Positano is known for lined the tiny pedestrian street that led down to the water.

Another product the area is famous for, Limoncello, was also prominently featured in many storefronts.

The sweet citrus liqueur is made from the lemons that grow so prevalently throughout the Amalfi coast, and are unique to the area. They even have their own name, Sfusato Amalfitano. Nearly every home has a tree in the garden.

The sweet citrus liqueur is made from the lemons that grow so prevalently throughout the Amalfi coast

From the bottom of the hill, the view back up was almost as incredible as the one looking down.

Positano, Italy clinging to the cliffs

The beach at Positano on the Amalfi Coast of Italy

The way the buildings are embedded into the steep slope is nothing short of amazing.

So we walked out on to the beach, which is more gravel than sand, for a better gawk up at the hillside.

The sunbathers certainly didn’t seem to mind the size of the stones, we figured it was because everything else about this setting was practically perfect.

Positano, Italy

The stunning view also reminded us that we would have to walk back up, and that we needed a little fuel for the climb.

Being so close to Naples, we felt we should try a real Neapolitan style pizza.

After all, the city is where the pizza was originated.

A tiny pizzeria’s balcony-with-incredible-view made for a perfect pit stop, even if the pie might not have been the best the region had to offer.

Pizza in Positano, Italy

Still it was tasty, priced right, and gave us the strength to manage our ascent.

Sorrento, Italy

We were once again precariously perched on The Amalfi Drive, the narrow ribbon of road high above the Tyrrhenian Sea.

Even though we had abandoned ship for the day, we — like so many sailors had in the past — followed the siren’s song toward the city of Sorrento. According to legend, several of the alluring songstresses were said to live on The Sirenusas, a small group of islands just off the coast.

Sorrento, Italy

Overlooking The Bay of Naples in Sorrento, Italy

Sorrento, while not quite as dramatic as Positano, is also precariously perched above the sea.

Back on the north side of the peninsula, we were once again overlooking The Bay of Naples, and Mount Vesuvius looming over poor Pompeii.

The Amalfi Drive near Sorrento, Italy

Salvadore Dali Universe in Sorrento, Italy

From the moment we alighted in the center of town, we immediately noticed something totally unexpected, a rather bizzarre statue in the middle of the street.

When we walked up to check it out and read the description we only had one thing to say, “Hello Dalì.”

As we walked around town we kept bumping into more of Salvador Dali’s works, placed on street corners, small parks, and along the sidewalks.

Salvadore Dali Universe in Sorrento, Italy

It was as if Sorrento had become one big gallery, which in a way, it had.

The art work was all part of “The Dalì Universe“, an exhibition centered at the Villa Fiorentino, that spread throughout the city.

The idea of fine art in Sorrento has caught on, and we had to agree that it seems like a match made in heaven, but all good things must come to an end, and they had to say, “Goodbye Dalì.”

No problem though, Pablo Picasso is the new star of the show, and is currently being exhibited at Villa Fiorentino.

The Valley of the Mills in Sorrento, Italy

After walking along the seaside cliffs, we tore ourselves away from the mesmerizing views and worked our way inland again.

Near the old town center we came upon a deep canyon with nearly verticle walls and with what looked to be ancient ruins at the bottom, The Valley of the Mills.

The vecchio mulino, or old mills, were used for grinding wheat, as well as sawing wood, have been in the canyon for well over a thousand years, yet continued in operation up until the 1800s.

Yet another surprise in the surprising city of Sorrento.

David & Veronica, GypsyNester.com

Thanks to Princess Cruises for inviting us along and providing this adventure! As always, all opinions are our own. See our entire Mediterranean voyage aboard the Royal Princess here

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Street Food of Mexico!

We binge ate our way through the Yucatan Peninsula – calorie count not included, for your guilt-free viewing pleasure… CONTINUE READING or enlarge video>>

We binge ate our way through the Yucatan Peninsula – calorie count not included, for your guilt-free viewing pleasure… READ THE ENTIRE STORY >>

David & Veronica, GypsyNester.com

Thanks to the folks at Ensure we felt secure that we could venture into this epicurean episode without risking any nutritional repercussions. They were kind enough to sponsor our video, and provided a supply of their new Ensure Active, which kept us hydrated throughout our escapades. All opinions are our own.

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YOUR TURN: Fire away! What looks good and what wouldn’t you eat in a million years (we would never ask that you are as crazy as we are!)?

Sumo Warriors: My Japanese Wrestling Education

Another fun post from our daughter, Charli, AKA The Piglet!

There’s a misconception that sumo wresting is just a couple fat dudes bashing into each other, but there’s actually a lot ritual, a lot of skill, and a lot of training that goes into those fat guys bashing into each other.

Sumo tournaments are held three times a year in Tokyo and I was lucky enough… CONTINUE READING >>

Another fun post from our daughter, Charli, AKA The Piglet!

Hangin' with Sumo wrestlers in Tokyo, Japan! GypsyNester.com

There’s a misconception that sumo wresting is just a couple fat dudes bashing into each other, but there’s actually a lot ritual, a lot of skill, and a lot of training that goes into those fat guys bashing into each other.

Sumo tournaments are held three times a year in Tokyo and I was lucky enough to be in town during this year’s September matches.

Japan’s national sport is held at Ryogoku Kokugikan where more than 11,000 spectators cheer on (and sometimes get crushed by) their favorite competitors.

Watching Sumo wrestling in Tokyo, Japan!

​The fights are much more intense than I ever expected.

The tournament runs from morning until 6pm, with the best fighters at the end, and though each match generally lasts only a minute or less (the best go longer), you’re on the edge of your seat.

Wrestlers are often hurled out of the ring, landing on the judges and fans lucky enough (and brave enough) to occupy the ringside seats.

Sumo wrestling in Tokyo Japan

There’s a lot of ritual at the tournaments too. Wrestlers throw salt to purify spirits, announcers sing out the competitor’s names to begin the match, and wrestlers peacock in the ring lifting their legs high and slapping their muscles.

The minutes in the ring before the match are when wrestlers have a chance to show their personality and intimate their opponent.

Sumo wrestling in Tokyo Japan

Sumo wrestling in Tokyo Japan

Ringside seats are Japanese box style, where you sit on a cushion on the floor; the ticket website warns “There is the danger of suffering injuries due to falls from the ring by wrestlers and other participants.”

Totally worth the risk of crushing in my opinion.

Sumo wrestling in Tokyo Japan

I was up on the second level in the “western style” seats, similar to what is typically found in an American stadium.

While the best seats sell out far in advance, the very top level seats are reserved for the morning of the matches and only sold at the stadium.

Before going, I watched a documentary called A Normal Life. Chronicle of a Sumo Wrestler that follows Takuya Ogushi, a recent high school graduate who enters a sumo stable in Tokyo, through his first year of training and matches.

Sumo wrestling in Tokyo Japan

These modern warriors eat (a lot), sleep, train and play together, forming a bond more like brothers than teammates. I watched as Takuya Ogushi put on 90 pounds and gained respect for the heart it takes to make it as a sumo wrestler.

I strongly recommend you watch before going to get a background on what these athletes do to succeed.

At the match, I rented a radio that feeds English commentary for the two hours of the highest-level matches. Learning about each wrestler’s background, styles and fan bases really adds to the experience.

My favorites were a 21-year-old Mongolian wrestler named Ichinojo who is kicking butt in his first season in the highest bracket. And another named Endo who, while his record isn’t stellar, is apparently quite the ladies man—he draws scores of female fans who love his “sweet exterior,” according to the radio commentator.

Sumo Wrestlers arrive at the match in Tokyo Japan

Woman poses with Somu wrestlers in Tokyo, Japan

Another fun part of the experience is watching the wrestlers arrive at the stadium.

Fans line up along the route from the street to the stadium and are able to get close and root on their favorites.

Watching old ladies losing it over being close to a giant wrestler is pretty great.

Takoyaki in Osaka, Japan

And because it wouldn’t be a GypsyNester post without a mention of food, there are a few stadium treats of note. I started off with a box of Takoyaki, aka octopus balls.

Whole wheat batter surrounds minced octopus, pickled ginger and cabbage and the balls are covered in mayo and spicy sauce.

Next, I’d suggest a bowl of tasty chankonabe or sumo wrestler stew, which is a protein-heavy soup eaten by competitors in huge quantities to bulk up. Finally, I fulfilled my sumo-sized meal with a tasty green tea ice cream cone.

If you’re planning a trip to Tokyo, don’t miss this truly Japanese experience.

And be sure to let us know if you are lucky enough to get crushed!

Charli

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Win a TravelCard – Never Let Your Phone Run out of Juice on the Fly Again!

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Floating Down an Underground, Secret River in Mexico

So… a guy was chasing an iguana, and discovered this…

The Yucatan Peninsula is hiding miles and miles of secret rivers.

This was revealed to us just outside the Riviera Maya town of Playa del Carmen, Mexico when we descended beneath the surface and into Rio Secreto.

By into, we really mean in to… CONTINUE READING >>

Rio Secreto, underwater cave near Cancun, Mexico

Listen… (ooo, waa, ooo) …do you want to know a secret?

Okay seriously, with apologies to The Beatles, the Yucatan Peninsula is hiding miles and miles of secret rivers.

This was revealed to us just outside the Riviera Maya town of Playa del Carmen, Mexico when we descended beneath the surface and into Rio Secreto.

By into, we really mean in to.

Rio Secreto, underwater cave near Playa del Carmen, Mexico

Allow us to explain about this most unique spelunking experience.

Although the cave is ancient, it wasn’t discovered until 2006 when the property owner chased an iguana into a hole and heard a splash.

Curious, he dug a bigger opening and happened upon over twelve kilometers of underground river flowing to the Caribbean Sea. After a couple of years of work mapping and exploring, he decided to open the amazing tunnels to the public–as long as precautions were taken to protect it.

Rio Secreto, underwater cave near Playa del Carmen, Mexico

We are by no means experts when it comes to cave explorations — yes we have been down a hole or two (both literally and figuratively) — but never anything remotely close to this.

Certainly not any that required donning a wetsuit. Yet even in the tropical Yucatan jungle we were sure glad we suited up, the water in this underground stream never sees the sun so it is cool enough that skinny dipping was hardly an option.

Right, let’s pretend that is why we don’t skinny dip anymore.

Once we had wriggled into our second skins, we showered to make certain no chemicals from sunscreen or makeup could contaminate the pristine system below us.

The wonder of Rio Secreto in Playa del Carmen, Mexico! GypsyNester.com

This is just one of the many precautions Rio Secreto’s operators take to ensure the protection of the fragile formations and wildlife that occupy the cave.

Everyone involved with these tours views this as an ecological preserve, so the goal is not only to introduce this amazing underworld to people, but to conserve it for the future.

In addition, we were issued water shoes and a life vest, so that we could effortlessly drift along.

Lastly, we were fitted with an ultra-cool, light-weight, modern version of the old miner’s helmet. Our new-fangled head gear came with super bright LED lights.

Later we would learn what the cave would be like without those lights. Let’s just say that we would still be down there because we would never have found our way out.

The ceremonial blessing honoring the Mayan traditions of rebirth before entering Rio Secreto in Mexico! GypsyNester.com

As much as the attire was appreciated once we were in the water, it wasn’t high on our list of desirable outfits for trekking above ground.

Luckily that part of the journey was short. We walked a few hundred meters to the cave entrance and stopped for a ceremonial blessing honoring the Mayan traditions of rebirth associated with entering and exiting these sacred sources of life-sustaining liquid.

David hikes down into the depths of Rio Secreto near Cancun, Mexico! GypsyNester.com

With our respects paid to the ancient traditions, our guide Paulo led us down into the darkness below. Our first discussion centered on how the cave and its features — the stalactites and stalagmites —  were formed.

All of the land on this part of the Yucatan Peninsula is made of limestone, which at one time was an ancient coral reef. In fact, much of the walls of the cave still look like coral.

The limestone dissolves fairly easily, so the heavy tropical rains have carved out many of these long underground rivers, and even more cenotes, which are large, water-filled sinkholes.

These were incredibly important as water sources for the Mayans, and are still supplying drinking water today. Yet another reason for protecting the river from contaminants.

Dripping water in Rio Secreto Mexico

As for the classic cave features, stalactites and stalagmites, Paulo explained how they form over many years by dripping water.

As the water seeps through the stone it picks up calcium, which is then deposited little by little, leaving layers that create the eerie cones called stalactites that hang from the top of the cave.

When the drips fall, they form the matching rising cone shapes on the cave floor known as stalagmites.

There are a few tricks to remembering which is which; Paulo’s was that the T in stalactite stands for top, an old geology teacher told us “stalactites stick tight.” It worked, we still remember it.

Dripping water in Rio Secreto Mexico

After enough time, the two will meet with “a kiss” to form what is known as a column.

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Sometimes other forces, such as the capillary action of water being drawn along against gravity the same way a wick works, or changes in water levels, or wind can act on the formations to create strange and wonderful variations.

These cave features, known as speleothems, will appear as straws, which form when drops fall and leave a tiny ring behind, or curtains, which come from water slowly running down a slope.

Perfectly smooth gems known as cave pearls, which occur as drops roll a small stone in a pool in Rio Secreto, Mexico

Even rarer are helictites, which grow out like branches or fingers and seem to defy gravity, or the perfectly smooth gems known as cave pearls, which occur as drops roll a small stone in a pool.

Incredibly, every one of these was present in Rio Secreto.

Roots from the trees in the jungle above work their way down to the water of Rio Secreto in Mexico

We noticed another extremely interesting feature protruding from the ceiling of the cave, roots.

No plants can grow in the environment of total darkness, but roots from the trees dozens, sometimes even hundreds, of feet above have pushed their way through the stone in search of the precious water below.

The force and determination involved is truly amazing, and yet another example of life always finding a way to forge ahead.

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In keeping with that phenomenon, a few animals have managed to adapt to the lack of any light.

Bats hanging around Rio Secreto near Cancun, Mexico

Cave spider at Rio Secreto near Playa del Carmen, Mexico

Bats, well-known cave dwellers, are fairly plentiful, especially near the openings that give them access to the outside world.

But even deep inside there some hardy residents. Crickets, ants, and a spider that has developed sensitive, antenna-like front legs for “seeing” in the dark, have all found a way to manage living deep underground.

A blind catfish in Rio Secreto near Cancun, Mexico

Two types of fish, a small catfish, and the blind, colorless cave fish, inhabit the waters.

Paulo was very excited that we spotted both with our headlamps, since the cave fish are very rare indeed. The little white fish are not only blind, but over the eons they have completely lost their eyes.

No need for them, so they simply don’t grow any.

Floating down Rio Secreto in Playa del Carmen, Mexico

David swims through a tiny hole in Rio Secreto in Playa del Carmen, Mexico! GypsyNester.com

A little over halfway through the cave the water began to get deeper. Up until that point we had been anywhere from ankle to waist deep, but we would have to swim for it to go on.

Float for it might be more accurate, which was great. We rolled over on our backs, and down a lazy river we went, awestruck the entire way.

David floats down Rio Secreto in Playa del Carmen, Mexico! GypsyNester.com

Sitting in Rio Secreto before we turned our headlights out and put in total darkness! GypsyNester.com

When we reached another shallow section, Paulo sat us down and introduced us to something most people have never experienced, total darkness.

We may think we have been in the dark, but no, there is almost always at least some tiny light source that our eyes can pick up and begin adjusting to.

Not this time. The complete, utter, absolute, unquestionable … okay, okay, point made, absence of any light whatsoever brought on a strange sensory deprivation that was somewhat unnerving. If we hadn’t known that we had the option to turn on our lights we probably would have freaked out.

Camera flash in Rio Secreto looks like fireworks

Then a camera flash slashed through the darkness and shocked our vision.

Wow! It was so intense that we could see the bright outlines of the stalactites for several seconds. Paulo did it again, then again, and it was like a fireworks show inside our eyeballs.

Had to take the goofy pic at Rio Secreto in Mexico! GypsyNester.com

There wasn’t going to be any topping that sensation, so with our lights back on, and our vision restored, we made our way up to the surface once again.

Back above ground we slithered out of our wetsuits and took a quick walk through the dry portion of the cave. This is an easy alternate route for those spelunkers who might not be comfortable with the total immersion version.

Best of all, it led to a mouthwatering buffet of local favorites.

Who knew spelunking could work up such an appetite?

David & Veronica, GypsyNester.com

We visited Rio Secreto while attending TBEX in Cancun, Mexico!

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YOUR turn: Isn’t it gorge-ous? Could YOU go down into an underwater cave in the total darkness?

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