WHOA! Do You Ever Feel Invisible?

Exciting news! I am honored to have been chosen to be a debut video partner of WHOA! Network, an exciting new online video network dedicated to bringing out the best in women “of a certain age.”

Here’s the scoop (and you can say you heard it here first!):

WHOA! Network has a simple concept at its core: Women should be seen and heard at every age and valued more as we get older, not less.

Makes sense, right?

Yet that’s not the case. In our… CONTINUE READING >> 

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Exciting news! I am honored to have been chosen to be a debut video partner of WHOA! Network, an exciting new online video network dedicated to bringing out the best in women “of a certain age.”

Here’s the scoop (and you can say you heard it here first!):

WHOA! Network has a simple concept at its core: Women should be seen and heard at every age and valued more as we get older, not less.

Makes sense, right?

Yet that’s not the case. In our youth-obsessed society, women beyond childbearing age have typically faded into the woodwork.

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What is WHOA! all about?

But now we’re at a new frontier, a true tipping point. The women who changed our world decades ago are trailblazing yet again, creating a powerful shift, rebranding how women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond are perceived.

WHOA! Network taps into this groundswell. We are pioneering the next level of connection on the Internet.  We’re shining a spotlight on the huge disconnect between how our culture views women as we age vs. the active, authentic lives we are actually living.  We provide a place and a way to unite and ignite the potential and influence of our demographic.

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Here are the dynamic hosts of WHOA!, Darryle and Lynn, interviewing me!

So join us! The more we are seen and heard, the more powerful we are as a group. We can’t wait to see you and hear you via the WHOA! Network.

Veronica, GypsyNester.com

Want to become a part of the groundswell? Follow WHOA! here:
Subscribe to WHOA! on YouTube
Join WHOA! on Facebook
Follow WHOA! on Twitter
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YOUR TURN: Let me know if you followed WHOA! by leaving a comment below! What do you think of the concept?

How to Make (and eat!) Octopus Balls


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No food says Osaka, Japan more than these hot octopus-stuffed balls of… CONTINUE READING >>

No food says Osaka, Japan more than these hot octopus-stuffed balls of deliciousness. Takoyaki, which translates to fried octopus, is said to have been invented in 1935 by a street vendor named Tomekichi Endo, and has become the definitive Osaka snack.

Making octopus balls in Osaka, Japan

We were captivated by the expert cooking demonstration going on beneath one of the giant cephalopod signs and stopped to observe.

The chef began by pouring batter into a specially designed pan with dozens of round indentations.

Making Takoyaki in Osaka, Japan

Once the batter was bubbling he dropped chunks of octopus into each hole, added more batter on top, and some chopped spring onion, red ginger, and tempura for crunch.

Then, with the most skilled use of chopsticks we had ever seen, he flipped each ball in its socket for perfectly even frying. Watching the creation of the golden brown balls, we knew we had to have some, even if neither of us is that big a fan of octopus.

Takoyaki in Osaka, Japan

So in we went and with the first taste we understood why takoyaki is so popular, it’s freakin’ delicious. The nugget of tentacle in the center was tender and tasty, and the coating hot, crispy, and just plain good.

By watching the other customers we learned to add some of the smoked, shaved bonita, along with the rich, semi-sweet brown sauce that were on the tables. The combination gave the balls of eight-legged wonder an almost barbecue flavor.

David & Veronica, GypsyNester.com

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The Yin and Yang of Parasite “Kids”

Mine! Mine! Mine!

David explores two UNBELIEVABLE stories of greed and selfishness!

Is there a special place in hell for offspring who steal from their elderly parents? Should offspring be required to take care of elderly parents no matter the circumstances? What steps can be taken to ensure that our families don’t end up like this?… CONTINUE READING >>

I’ve read two articles over the past couple weeks that show the full circle of the problem of Parasite “Kids”.

This is the term that we’ve coined for adult offspring that cannot, or will not, take care of themselves, but have not boomeranged back to the nest.

Instead they have mom and dad paying their rent, bills and even furnishing spending money for their recreation and vacations.

The two stories are polar opposites, but each reveal just how screwed up family relationships can become when adult offspring are involved. The first article really got my blood boiling.

Entitled “Children ripping off their parents at an alarming rate” (By Shelley Hadfield for news.com.au), the article tells of parasitic little brats in Australia taking their sponging to a new depths. They are actually stealing money from their aging parents.

“Powers of attorney are used as a ‘license to steal,’ elderly parents are pressured into signing over their homes, or money is simply withdrawn from their accounts.”

We are truly reaching new lows when family members can’t be trusted to have our best interests at heart in our final years. Should we have to consider hiring strangers to make our financial and medical decisions late in life just to keep parasitic progeny at bay?

“The problem has become so rampant that one senior citizen advocacy group now says that 39% of the cases it is working on involve financial abuse. But those numbers may very well be on the low side. ‘I believe the real numbers are … unreported,’ State Trustees manager Steve Cowell said. ‘It’s actually really common, but it does not get reported. The poor parents are so embarrassed about it.'”

The article points out that, “Most cases are perpetrated by close family members. As a result it is a very silent crime, and one kept very much in the confines of the family.”

Adding to the problem is an attitude from police and authorities that these are family matters and should be dealt with outside the legal system.

“It’s amazing what people do. They think mum and dad are old anyway, they don’t need the money, there’s $150,000 sitting in the account.”

“In many cases, the children feel they are entitled to the money because they will inherit it one day.”

There’s the key word, “entitled.” I don’t think this is something that just appears one day. These “heirs” have been taught this behavior over the years by never being denied. Now they think that they are more “entitled” to their parents’ money than their folks that worked and saved all of their lives.

As we have said many times before, parents who provide the easy way out – time and time again – are not doing their children any favors. This is the end result of that sort of coddling. Still, I hesitate to put too much blame on the parents.

Certainly these “kids” should be finding ways to make sure mom and dad are secure in their golden years. Nothing is stopping them from being decent and helping to make things better. But since they have never considered anyone but themselves for their entire adult lives, they don’t.

With that in mind, let’s take a look at the flip side of this issue.

B.C. woman sues adult kids for parental support: Should she get it?” (By Zosia Bielski for The Globe and Mail)

In this story a 73-year-old Canadian woman is using an obscure law, from back in The Depression era, to sue her adult children for support payments. At first glance I was inclined to think, sure, why shouldn’t her kids help take care of their aging mother? She shouldn’t have to sue them!

But this story has a twist. Perhaps this is not a case of worthless, ungrateful offspring ignoring a parent, but a mother that is envious of her children’s success.

“Shirley Anderson, who recieves $1,500 a month from the Canada Pension Plan and Old Age Security, now wants $750 from each of her four kids. ‘Ms. Anderson has complained that her family takes trips to Hawaii as she lives in poverty. She first sued her children 12 years ago and was then awarded $10 a month from each child.'”

Still, I thought maybe these kids should be helping out their mother. Couldn’t they come to some sort of agreement without a lawsuit? Then one of the children provided this answer,

“‘I just do not believe you should have to pay when you’re left behind at 15 years old. It’s not right,’ her son Ken, 47, told reporters. ‘We’re getting older and we’ve got to retire soon. We’ve got two kids that we’ve got to put through post-secondary school, and having to pay her just takes it away from my kids. It’s just not right,’ he said.

That’s right, this woman dumped her own family when they were just kids, and now she thinks that she deserves $36,000 a year from them. They have growing children of their own, headed to college, but grandma doesn’t care, she wants to leave them in the lurch too.

Maybe we’ll have to come up with a new term: Parasite “Parents”.

David, GypsyNester.com

Your turn: What do YOU think about these issues? Is there a special place in hell for offspring who steal from their elderly parents? Should offspring be required to take care of elderly parents no matter the circumstances?